LISA JAYNE
THE RELATIONAL ARCHITECT . SPEAKER . AUTHOR . MOTHER OF FOUR
There's a moment most people reach — after the therapy, after the self-help books, after the genuine, sustained effort to do things differently — when they realise something hasn't shifted. The insight is there. The intention is real. And yet the same patterns keep returning.
That moment is where my work begins.
I've spent over two decades working with the emotional and relational lives of people — individuals, couples, families, and teams. What I've found, consistently, is this: the problem isn't a lack of understanding. It's a structural one.
You cannot build a new relational architecture from inside the old one.
Most approaches to relationships work within the existing structure — refining communication, processing emotions, identifying patterns. All valuable. All limited by the same constraint: they attempt to produce new results without changing the underlying architecture that generates them.
Relational Architecture is different. It's a framework built around three domains and seven specific capacities that, when developed, produce a fundamentally different way of showing up in every relationship in your life.
What I've found is that when people begin to think structurally about their relationships, something unexpected happens. It gets easier. Not because the relationships become simpler — but because the map makes the territory navigable. You stop fighting the pattern and start seeing what it's built on. And once you can see the structure, you can change it.
WHAT I’VE COME TO UNDERSTAND
I DIDN’T ARRIVE AT THIS FRAMEWORK THROUGH THEORY. I ARRIVED AT IT THROUGH LIFE.
I'm a mother of four. I rebuilt my life after two long-term relationships were profoundly impacted by addiction. I know what it means to lose yourself inside a relational system that was never going to produce what you needed — no matter how hard you tried, no matter how much you loved. I know what it costs to stay inside a structure that isn't working. And I know what becomes possible when you finally step outside it.
That lived experience — alongside over twenty years of working with clients, extensive study in trauma-informed practices, ancient wisdom traditions, the energetics of the heart, an education degree and my certification as a psychedelic-assisted therapist and relationship and communication coach — is what shaped this work. As a qualified teacher and a Justice of the Peace, I’ve participated in the education of our children and the intriguing processes of our legal system.
Relational Architecture isn't something I learned from a textbook. It's the distillation of everything I've lived, witnessed, and tested in real (often gruelling) relational conditions. I walk this talk completely.
I WORK WITH EVERYDAY HUMANS, WANTING TO CREATE A BETTER WORLD
Shifting our relational architecture has the potential to fundamentally change lives - it starts at love, nestled within our true nature, and works outwards from there. It doesn’t take much imagination to realise how different life could become compared to our current relational architecture which is often founded on fear, lack, scarcity and effort.
I work internationally as a teacher, speaker, and guide — with individuals and couples, online and in my private practice in Eumundi on the Sunshine Coast.
The entry point I recommend for everyone is Your Relational Architecture Mirror — a free diagnostic that maps your relational structure across the three domains and gives you a precise picture of where you're holding and where you're under strain. It's the clearest starting point I know of, because it removes the guesswork. You stop wondering what to work on and start seeing exactly where the architecture needs attention.
From there, the work deepens — through my live Lab sessions, my eight-week intensive program, and for those wanting deeper, one-to-one work tailored precisely to your structure.
They find that the work is less about effort and more about precision. That understanding the structure makes their relationships — all of them — feel less like something happening to them and more like something they're consciously building.
They find that the seven capacities I teach aren't personality traits or communication styles. They're structural — which means they can be built. And once they're built, they hold. Not just in good conditions. Under pressure.
That's what I'm here to help you do.
WHAT PEOPLE FIND
If you're ready to stop managing your relationships and start understanding the architecture beneath them — start with the Mirror. It takes ten minutes. What it reveals will really stay with you …
Or if you'd like to speak directly, book a 20 minute call.
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